i tend to do a LOT of driving (i'm
averaging 2k miles per month on the continual car over the last 20 months) and i use craiglist's
ride share a LOT. it gives me both company as well as gas money for the ride (nothing doubles your mileage like someone paying for half a tank). the problem is that about one in three people flake on their "commitment" to ride along. it irritates me to no end so i've
decided to do something about it ... i'm
going to start tagging them here (this is the blog that easily has the most search engine hits of all the ones i'm
involved with, so it'll get paid attention to by the engines). my hope is that when people want to google potential riders they'll know what they could be in for.
because all of this is mildly "exposing," i'll
put as much absolute truth and attention to detail in here that i can. i want to be very
clear about my feelings: yes people's plans change, i understand that. and yes, people can have (sometimes terrible) things come up. but in all
experienced (and those described here), these people did nothing
to indicate to me that i should not be picking them up -- i was left hanging, sometimes at literally the last minute.
also sorry that i'm focusing
on the negative and not putting my great experiences on here. there have been some really good ones. unfortunately evil 'net robots would probably help undo those people with any information i left, so i have to just let them be.
almost needless to say, my advice if you're giving a ride to anyone on this list is say "no thanks" and go with the next possibility.
if you happen to see this posting, you're on this list and you're pissed about it, you and i need to have a little phone conversation ... because before anything
else happens, guess what? you caused me hardship and never apologized for it -- you had me scrambling without even a second thought from your side. all you had to do was call or TXT
and say things had changed. a word to anyone here or in the future because it apparently isn't obvious: when things fall apart, you need to inform the people that are depending on you
i use quotes around the names i was given because, as bo
so rightly says, "assume everything you read in the internet
is a lie unless you have strong
reason to believe otherwise."
(note: this is NOT her
number, but her using the cell of a friend ... he was very reasonable and fine to me which is why i don't mention him by name here.)
i had responded to an older CL ad of hers wanting to take her and her daughter from san diego
to las vegas
, NV. we traded several emails and TXT
, but had agreed that i would pick her up in san diego
. in our last batch of communications i said to be sure to give me an address because i was driving to LA at the time and wouldn't be able to talk on the phone. she left a voice mail sometime during that drive saying she was trying to reach me but i was unsuccessful (which, ahem, was what i had already told her).
i sent her an email just past midnight on the day i was to pick her up saying i still needed an address and i was planning on leaving at noon.
at 09:00 that morning i hadn't received a return email or TXT
so i called the number i'd
been communicating with and got the cell's owner. i let him know i was planning on leaving SD at noon, he said he'd relay the information (and certainly didn't seem surprised by it -- i'm
had already informed him).
at 11:45 i hadn't heard anything, i called and he said that wendee
had gone to pick up her daughter from fishing and was surprised she hadn't called me. i said i'd
be leaving in about 20 minutes.
at 12:15 i called and said i was leaving in 15 minutes. he was still surprised that we hadn't spoken and said, "that may not work for her since she's not in cell phone coverage." i never heard anything from her again.
oh yeah, and this day i'm
talking about here? it just happened to be my birthday.
i removed this post 2/3/10 due to comment (and self-constraint) below.